VIDEO: How raging war separated Adina’s parents

• The musician reveals her mother returned to Ghana with her for fear of losing their lives

• She discloses that through the internet, she noticed her father had died

Born in Liberia, Adina Thembi Ndamse was less than a year old when the first Liberian civil war broke out in 1989. Due to the severity of the war and the strive for survival, her parents inadvertently lost touch.

“Mum is Ghanaian; my father is South African. They met in Liberia when my mum went to Liberia to work. My father was in exile in Liberia because it was apartheid and his father was in government. He had to go somewhere to seek asylum because if he had stayed in South Africa a little longer, I don’t think he would have lived for long… That’s how he met my mum”, Adina told Stacy on the ‘Restoration With Stacy’ show.

“I was born in October; the war broke out a month or two later. By 1990, we came to Ghana… I wasn’t even a year old so I didn’t see anything”, the musician added.

Sharing the story of how events unfolded as narrated to her by the mother, Adina said her father was a doctor “and was working at a different region in Liberia”.

“When the war broke out, it was hard for my mum to go to where my dad was. A few times, he’d try but it was very risky because the rebels were on the street; randomly, they’d stop you and say ‘dance around with your naked body’. It was traumatizing. At a point where she realized it wasn’t safe, she decided to come to Ghana but he was too far away so they lost touch.”

The decision to relocate to Ghana, she said, became necessary after they had been forewarned of an attack.

“Where we lived, we were living comfortably until we had a tipoff that the rebels were going to blast the place the next morning so they (residents) literary run in the middle of the night”, said Adina.

She mentioned that the father wrote letters in his quest to communicate to the family but they received the letter years later. As one who had never met her father, she held the letters dearly.

“My attachment to my father was the letters he wrote”, she declared while disclosing that her father died. According to her, the mother hid news of her father’s demise from her because she did not want to burst her bubble considering how she [Adina] was eager to meet her father.

“When I grew up, my mum told me my dad was from South Africa. I didn’t know he had died”, Adina said, adding that she found out about her father’s departure to eternity through the internet when she was almost 18 years old.

“I cried. Everybody in the cafe came to console me. I broke down”, she recalled her reaction.

On how her mother has been affected by the development, Adina said: “My mum has PTSD [posttraumatic stress disorder]. She doesn’t like to watch movies that have guns because she actually saw people shot and killed during the war. She’s terrified of loud noises.”

Watch the interview below.